Whenever the question of gay marriage comes up it is always countered by the same phrase over and over; the sanctity of marriage. I know it will be hard to separate the religious aspect and influence on this topic, but for the sake of this article, we can only try (for the most part of it). It is no surprise that most of the population either disapprove of homosexual behaviors or simply force to accept them under a certain law. I have no problem personally with people who object on other people’s way of life as long as they keep their objections within reasonable limits. But when your objection becomes more of a rejection and refusal to grant a certain person their rights, then something go terribly wrong here.
Although some people will argue the homosexuality is a disease, some consider it a personal choice, but this is not the issue here, what matters is why are those who try to push away the right for gay people to get married are so angry? And over what exactly? Sanctity of marriage is always the first official response from a n average individual to head of states and governments. If we agree to take the religious part out of the equation, then what we are left with is logic (reason), morals, and traditions. Let’s break that down:
Reason: marriage represents family, family represents parents and children. Children are raised between a man and a woman where both of them share different yet overlapping responsibilities. This may sound ideal on paper but on ground it is a different reality. Every year thousands of kids are being brought up by a single parent, either due to divorce, death of a parent, separation or adoption. Yet these kids are no different than any other kids once you meet on the street, I’ve never seen a boy growing up to be a girl just because he had no father or father figure, never seen a girl end up a boy just because she was had no mommy or a step-mom. So how is it unreasonable for two women to take in a child and raise him? What about two guys to nurture a baby in their family home? It is acceptable for two parents (from different genders) to have as many children as they want, even if they can’t afford a suitable living conditions and education, but for two gay parents to adopt a single child ( which mean going through months and years or paper work and scrutiny) is consider outrageous! I am sure we can argue reason here as a valid ground of dismissal.
Morals: It is socially acceptable all over the world to see two people getting married, but to see two gay people tying the knot is a community disaster! How come? Funny is no one objects when they see two people getting married after knowing each other for few days, or getting married to someone with a bad reputation, or even marring a liar or thief, it is always consider a personal choice. But one a gay couple consider getting married, even if they knew each other for ages and just want celebrate their love, it is a moral threat to the community. Las Vegas weddings, or a “Vegas wedding” is such a neat expression and hippy spontaneous act, these kinds of weddings happens every day, because they are cool and fun. Of course we have a big chunk of people against that sort of wedding and commitment, but they won’t go to extremes trying to stop, they just feel it is wrong and they won’t actually recommend it for anyone because it violates what they think a marriage should be. But try and mention gay marriage in front of these same people, they will be rallying and protesting on the street, going on TV and contacting the media, orchestrating organizations and groups to preserve the morals of humanity. If morals are to be defended by these people only, we would have lost morality and community bounding long time ago.
Traditions: The backbone of every community and nation. It preserves safety and identity. Traditions means a man will propose to a woman asking her father for her hand. Traditions means a woman is wedded to her husband in a ceremony attended by loved ones and family. Traditions means this certain man and women are bound by their vows and love. Of course these are the ideal definition of traditions, but when it comes to day’s facts, people are getting married for many reasons out side love. Girls are getting engaged and sometimes married without their parents’ consent. Fixed marriages are popular as ever in many parts of the world, even forced marriages are being exercise as well. Try and squeeze and a same gender marriage into this formula and you would be labeled as someone with no respect to traditions and common sense. Try and whisper the phrase gay marriage, and you would be bombarded with excuses and reason why it would destroy a traditional family. Statistics are showing a high rate of divorce cases, family feuds are custody battles overwhelming the world, but I think in the minds of these people these events are becoming traditional too, so they are acceptable.

As I said earlier, we will try to stay away from the religious aspect of this topic at least for a while, but I guess this article will only make sense when it contains the word religion in it. So many scriptures forbid homosexuality and condemn it; I have no argument with this part. Yet I’ve never read about a single God’s prophet, son, messenger of incarnation of God himself who hunted down these homosexuals, killed them, insulted them, spat at their faces, held signs cursing them, or even beat them with stick. But now you turn on the news, and what you see are waves of religious followers acting as if they are better than those God’s messengers, prophets and sons we read about. They carry their missions with so much hate and inconsideration as if their faith founder was too lazy or a coward to act up and they themselves are here to set the recorded straight. They attack those “sinners” with a rage you would only see in a sinner himself trying to diverse the attention from him. I’ve always believed that God gave every man the choice to practice his own religion and will be held accountable for it, I just never knew he appointed judges, juries and executioners on this earth as will do to his work before hand.
I have no problem with gay people, no problem with them getting married; I have no fear on “The Sanctity of Marriage” or the traditional family. My only fear and concern is not to be able to be a good husband first to my wife, a good parent to my children, a good individual in my community, and man with good deed to stand before my God. Unless I am totally sinless I won’t be throwing the first stone, but you can go ahead and throw two stones for the both of us.